The Guide to Getting it On (During Your Period)

Feeling a little frisky when you’re on your period?

Well, you’re not the only one. I, for one have crazy hormones on a regular basis, so when it’s that time of the month—I become ravenous and full of cravings…and it’s not always chocolate that I’m longing for.

For a long time I always believed that sex would never be an option when I was menstruating. It’s rare for me to feel sexy and attractive when I’m bloated, over-emotional and cramping up. Pair that with the fact that I found the bloody act to be gross, messy and overall unappealing. That’s just how I was feeling, never mind the guy who I was going to be having sex with—what would he think? Though I’m open to exploring my sexuality and try different sexual acts, this was one that I believed too much for me to handle.

But in the midst of my cycle one day, I found myself thinking, I’ll never know unless I try it, and so I did. And it wasn’t bad at all. In fact, it put me in a pretty damn good mood. As a result, I began to think about why I was objecting to trying it out in the first place, and then I remembered the taboo atmosphere that surrounds menstruation—a physical and biological normal occurrence for each and every woman on this planet once they hit a certain age (and many animals too). We’re taught that our period is something that is only talked about (if at all) among women, but I think it’s something that men need to know about too. Maybe then, it wouldn’t be so awkward or weird to discuss the possibility of having sex while a girl is on her period, because let’s face it—I’m not the first to do this, and I certainly won’t be the last.

If you feel hormonally hot during that time of the month then read on for some tips on how to successfully have sex while on your period:

1. Think it through.  For many girls, being on their period is an unpleasant time. There can be headaches, backaches, bloating and cramps. If you’d rather curl up with your honey and eat a pint of ice-cream then so be it. However, if you’re feel a little sexy then make sure that you’d be comfortable with having sex with your partner and then go for it!

2. Is he okay with it? Guys get weird talking about periods, seriously. Not all of them, but many (at least some of the ones I know) cringe at the thought of a pad or tampon, or menstrual cup in my case. He needs to know what he’s getting into beforehand, so bring it up to him and see if having sex during that time of the month is something that he’d be willing to be a part of.

3. Pick the right time. It’s important to pick a proper date in accordance with your period. Usually for me, I do it when there’s less blood, toward the end of my cycle but if you just need to have it on your first day, then do it. Just make sure that you’re comfortable and prepared (see below.)

4. Prepare! Lay that towel down. For reals. This is the best piece of advice in existence for those about to have period sex. It will save you from stressing about making a mess and keep those sheets clean. Grab a grungy towel you don’t care about and use it for this purpose only.

5. Avoid being on top. It’s just the way gravity works. If you’re confident enough to be on top and really don’t care about the potential mess, then kudos to you! Personally, that is a position that I will avoid to all costs while on my period. I suggest classic missionary and spooning.

Deciding to have sex while on your period isn’t easy. While many girls still stay away from it, I think it’s worth a shot, especially if your hormones are raging out of control and you’re impatient like me. At times, your hormones will get the best of you. In those cases, it’s important to feel comfortable, make sure that your significant other is willing and that a towel is nearby.

If you’re going to give this a try then I wish you a happy (and orgasm filled) period!