On Wednesday night, I went to an amazing Urban Girl Squad event called “Modern Dating: Makeovers, Headshots and Flirting Tips from the Experts.” eFlirt Expert & former Renegade Chick of the Week, Laurie Davis was there to give New York women advice on the world of online dating. If you are doing the whole online dating thing, then you need to take a look at the following tips to have a successful online dating life below:
Let’s face it ladies, men are just a bunch of horn dogs at the end of the day and your picture is what makes them click on your profile. With that being said, you should have at least 5-7 photos of yourself on your profile. These pictures should show a range of your personality and things you like to do like traveling or mountain climbing. One photo should be a full body shot (up to your mid thigh is fine). A big dating no-no is putting multiple pictures up with you and your friends. It just opens up opportunities for men to see competition (if there is other men in your photos) or they might even think one of your friends is hotter than you. Hey, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Plus, you want the focus to be on you anyways. Your dating profile shouldn’t be about your friends.
Don’t overshare on your profile.
Though your online profile should go into some detail about your life, it is not meant to be your autobiography. Your profile should focus more on action. For example, if you think you are funny, show your funny side through your profile. Say a specific adventure that you had, what your favorite restaurants are, and some of your hobbies. Think about certain key words or things you want your match to have and sprinkle those words throughout your profile. The operative word is SPRINKLE. Do not get too serious about exactly what you are looking for (i.e. 6’2, with brown hair, who went to Columbia). And do not give ultimatums.
Keep your profile updated.
Update your profile as frequently as possible. The more you update your profile, the more matches you get, and the more your profile goes to the top, which let’s face it, is what we all want at the end of the day.
The main point of messages should be to say, I exist, I want to start a conversation with you and I am interested. Make sure to keep the messages short, you don’t want to come off too excitable. According to Davis, our eFlirt expert, you should avoid saying, “Hi” and generic lines and just jump right into the message. The messages should only be 3 to 4 sentences max and you should always end with a question. Only one question ladies!
If you are looking for more online dating advice, check out eflirtexpert.com and keep an eye out for Laurie’s book which will be in stores in 2013, called Love @ First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating, (February 2013, Atria Books/ Simon & Schuster). You can also pre-order Love @ First Click here.